20 years

When people would tell me that they were married for 20 or 25 years, I of course would always congratulate them. But I never really was totally impressed. It’s just like anything else, you just aren’t that amazed unless you have managed to experience it yourself and then you are like “WOW! We are really amazing!!” 😆 I’m turning 40 this year as well. Seems impossible. Married half of my life, longer than I was single. 50/50. 

Just recently someone (a stranger) asked us “what is the key to a good marriage? How did you make it 20 years?”  We joked about it and didn’t really give a good answer. I had answers running through my mind but didn’t take the time. I’ll tell you now.

I take no credit. None. 

It’s because of Jesus and Gary. I remember those early years I struggled with Gary being a jokester. I remember having a heart to heart with him saying that I needed some seriousness too. I remember him trying really hard after that to balance between the two specially for me. He loved God enough to care about my heart and changed.. at least a little. But he also loved me enough to know that we were going to need alot of jokes to get through life. Marriage isn’t always simple. You don’t have to live long to figure out human relationships are tough because wow, we are very imperfect. But we both believe in marriage for life. Yup, until death. So even if you kinda don’t like each other one day, you wake up and try again and say I’m sorry. Over and over again. And some how in the mess of tears and joy.. marriage is the most beautiful bond. 

 

Yes Jesus is faithful.